(i.e. proper self-respect and balanced self-confidence go hand in hand)
If you don’t appreciate yourself, how can you expect others to appreciate you? Boost your self-esteem by getting to know yourself better, respect yourself and others, too, and you can achieve being treated the way you’ve always wanted to be treated.
What does self-respect mean exactly?
Loving yourself. It’s as simple as that. Accepting yourself with all your weaknesses, failures and weird thoughts. Just as you are. And at the same time, trying to be even better.
What can you lose by not being self-respectful?
Well, to put it bluntly: you can lose yourself.
Others can push you around, control you or even treat you as a doormat. You will feel ridiculously small in their presence, and after a while in others’ company as well. You also may feel being pathetic because deep down inside you are aware that you should do something about it but you can’t. It leads to feeling guilty after a while, which is the ultimate source of oh-so-many other negative consequences. For instance harmful, destructive addictions like gambling, casual sex, uncontrollable shopping, or escaping into virtual reality etc.
(photo by Jared Rice)
If you don't accept your body, it can cause frustration, as well as many health-related problems, and can keep you in a constant why-do-I-have-to-deal-with-myself-again state. The sign of feeling tired and depressed all the time is just the beginning.
Watch out: this is a desperate cry-out from your physical existence to treat yourself better!
What can you gain by being self-respectful?
First of all, if you learn how to esteem your thoughts, goals, personality and body, you will be more self-confident and mentally stronger amid any adversities.
You will learn what is truly important in your life, therefore you will be able to differentiate what is worth paying attention to and what should be ignored.
This way you will get to be calmer and will be able to plan ahead by keeping priorities in mind.
Moreover, you can become a better partner in every type of relationships (eg. your relationship with your body), since you will be able to connect and/or communicate more effectively by knowing your desires and keeping your boundaries at the same time.
In addition, you won’t feel the necessity to compare yourselves to others because you know that everybody is unique and has their strengths – as well as their issues about themselves or their circumstances.
I’m not saying that you should boost your self-esteem artificially, because it leads to an inflated ego – and since it results in more problems than values, it’s a definite no-no.
But a constant improvement achieved by baby steps is crucial in order to build more self-confidence, to feel better and make the world a nicer place around you. So bring the best out of what you have, forget about the past and set smart goals for yourself.
Basically these are the most important factors to consider, and in the following article I will give you a concrete to-do list how to achieve the wished-for state.
Nosce te ipsum - and be the best version of yourself.
I can help you with it.
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